Are marriages really made in heaven?

Nandkutti, West Bengal
written by: Mukul Mantri

Probably, if you are in India, most definitely; love marriages are still a rare thing here and in arrange marriages only if you are lucky you meet your partner a couple of times before wedding else it's just assumed to work out. Now then, what would you say to that?

Amongst Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs, and Jains the groom is considered to be the provider and is responsible for the family. During the British era, the women were prohibited to own property or wealth in the country; forcing an automatic transfer onto their husband which is transitioned to dowry over time asserting more power to the groom for he makes the seven sacred vows - Saat Vachaan to his partner and promises to live upto it for the rest of his life.

- I swear to take you to the great temples with me and be your partner in belief and karma.
- I swear to respect you like I do my parents and respect the boundaries of our home.
- No matter the situation, I swear to be with you all my life.
- Now that I am getting married, I swear that I will provide for our family always.
- I swear that all my financial gains are not only mine but our family's and I will ask for your acceptance in matter of finance and family.
- I swear that I will never embarrass you in front of my friends, and give up any bad habits that I have such as gambling, betting or drinking.
- I swear that I will treat other women as kindly as my mother and never involve others in our feud.

Saat Vachaan

Some unique Indian wedding about's:

Shaadi ka Joda: The bride is dressed in a shade of red while the groom usually adorns off-white. Red relates to the planet Mars, which signifies prosperity and fertility according to Hindu astronomy.
Sindoor: In Hindu communities the use of sindoor indicates a woman is married and ceasing to wear it usually implies widowhood.
Mangalsutra: It can be called the Sacred Cord that binds the bride and the groom together until death


Dowry is a culture that is practiced amongst Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs, and Jains. It took off when the prestigious upper class started gifting their daughter goods to ensure she lived comfortably but during the British era, the women were prohibited to own property or wealth forcing an automatic transfer onto their husband. Over the years this culture has transformed into now "dowry". "Lions's Club", Hastings Chamber, Kolkata is an organization that practices the culture of gifting daughters for better lives and each year come February they take ownership to marry 108 brides and give back to this beautiful society. If you wish to contribute to this event you can contribute any amount above $1 or Rs.50/-

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